Many at times when some relationships come to an end, people are quick to ask for a
refund or return of whatever they gave or did for their partner during the relationship. Some husbands are quick to go to their in-laws for their drink, etc. because the woman they married was not what they thought she was. These actions always leave one question in the mind "Were they really in love or pretending to be in love?".
In a retail business, a return is the process of a customer taking previously purchased products back to the retailer or seller, and in turn, receiving a refund in the original form of payment, exchange for another item (identical or different).
A relationship is not a profit making venture as some people think; because of this mindset, they enter relationships in the name of love in order to get something at the end of the day. The motive behind their search for a partner is to find someone who makes them feel good, no wonder relationships these days don't last.
Love has no expectation or return policy, if you agree to be in a relationship or get married to someone, remember the only way to make it last is to give but not to receive. We are partners because we agree to serve each other. Relationships run on deposits but die out of withdrawals.
People who come with the mindset to receive are the ones who don't give their all, it is always easy for them to give up. They are secretive, lazy and dishonest. Just as one cannot easily give up on things they love including bad addiction, so is love. If you find yourself in such a relationship or someone leaves you like that, it simply means that the relationship was not real from day one, it had no love, it was never meant to be, so stop holding onto it for the result is pain that leads to death.
There are lots of people living dead today as a result of such relationship, they smile towards you physically but are in pain emotionally and feel dead mentally. They can't think right. Simple decisions are hard for them to take.
If you are single, look for someone who is ready to build with you, someone who loves serving, not just you, but their Maker and the people around them; someone who believes in you even when you have nothing to give them; someone who sees you as a friend, someone who won't give up on you, someone who doesn't want to leave even when you push them away.
Someone who truly cares about you, thoughts of you keeps them awake, dreaming of you keeps them asleep and being with you keeps them alive. Someone who sees the world in you when you see nothing in yourself. Someone who can give away everything just to be with you without thinking of what to get in return. Someone who focuses on your strength and not your weakness.
Therefore if at the end of the relationship they are asking for a refund or a return of the things they did for you in the relationship, just remember love is not trading and it has no return policy. What these people are telling you is they never loved you, they were just in business with you.
In conclusion "Smooth words may hide a wicked heart, just as a pretty glaze covers a clay pot" - Proverbs 26:23.
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